A good relationship with others can be defined as a feeling of inner satisfaction in relationships with other people. Understanding these relationships as healthy bonds, where one feels valued, listened to, respected, where in some cases intimacy is created and where these feelings are mutual. In a good relationship with others, the priority is always to share and not to extract.
A person also knows that he/she has good relationships with others, because he/she feels like an open person, avoiding the judgments that separate us or the defensive barriers that exist in society.
For what reasons can relationships with others get worse?
If one is not well with oneself, it is very likely that the relationships with others will worsen, for different reasons:
- Because he isolates himself
- Because he/she has expectations towards the other that have repercussions in the relationship. Expectations make one very demanding in relationships and these are distorted, increasing the feeling of dissatisfaction, closure and isolation.
- Attachment in relationships, which makes people co-dependent, nullifying themselves and diminishing the quality of the relationship on both sides.
- The existence of toxic relationships
The signs that determine that a relationship is not working properly.
The factors that determine that a relationship does not work properly are diverse and can be the lack of sincerity, jealousy, possessiveness, resentment expressed verbally, little interest in the other and with oneself, little interest in staying for the simple fact of sharing.
Other signs that determine an inadequate functioning of a relationship is the action of extracting in the relationship instead of sharing or having expectations that put the power of happiness or self-satisfaction on the other. Also, when in the relationship one always does what one wants and the other adapts.
The guidelines to follow to improve the relationship with others
There are a number of guidelines that people can follow to improve relationships with others:
- Improve the relationship with oneself
- Be tolerant and respectful of others’ mistakes.
- Letting go of expectations
- Give the best of oneself and expect the other to be happy.
- Want to contribute to the other, whether partner or friend.
- Smiling attracts people to you, people want to be around happy people.