What is sexual anxiety?
Sex addiction is characterized by an escalating and repeated pattern of sexual behavior that is often uncontrollable even when attempts are made to stop the behavior.
What are the reasons for sexual anxiety?
We live in a society of desires and individualism, of speed, of intolerance to frustration, of few and fragile bonds, of the physical and the visual, of disbelief of great acquired knowledge, art, culture, thought, and as a consequence of the confusion we find ourselves a bit lost. Many people suffer from anxiety, obsessive and compulsive disorders that pass camouflaged before the eyes of others.
This man who walks through a hyper-inhabited world of stimuli in which with a single click he has everything, in many cases calms his anxiety with sex becoming an emotionally paralyzed addict who postpones any emotional conflict he has to face.
Does it affect men and women in the same way?
It affects much more men than women, the proportion would be 1/7.
How can such anxiety be overcome?
In all addictions there is a dialectic between the universal and the particular, between what is common to all addicts and what is specific to each one of them; a dialectic that must be taken into account, and which makes it possible for treatment to be standardized in some aspects (for example, protocols for therapeutic action to stop compulsive sexual behaviors), while in others it must be personalized (for example, specific psychotherapy based on the specific characteristics of each person at his or her specific level).
In this way, it becomes possible, for each specific patient, to establish the level that needs to be addressed therapeutically with greater urgency, based on its importance at the time the patient is seen. Except for the most disabling cases, i.e. those people whose sexual behavior is so compulsive that it absolutely blocks their daily activities, in which it is necessary to intervene with cognitive-behavioral strategies that help them to quickly stop these behaviors due to the risks involved in disease transmission, family, economic and social destruction, different psychological imbalances, etc.), in most cases it is enough to start treating the specific personal aspects for the sexual behaviors to stop on their own.
The most important conclusion from the above is that if each person becomes a sex addict in a different way and for different reasons, it will be necessary to apply different treatments for each patient as well.
It is not, therefore, a matter of simple variations in the technique, of deviations according to emergency situations, but of something more essential. It is a matter of understanding and making the patient understand how his mind works so that he has needed sex in this way, so that the therapist can intervene in a specific way that allows him to put an end to his suffering.
The patient will have weekly individual psychotherapy sessions with a psychotherapist who not only has experience in the specific treatment of addictions, but who is also an expert in the psychotherapeutic treatment of the human being in all its breadth, since overcoming addiction will require more than applying strategies to stop their sexual behaviors or prevent relapses, it will be necessary for the person to understand what is happening to them, why they have reached this situation and what they must change to have a freer life.
Advice for people suffering from sexual anxiety
Each person comes to suffer sexual anxiety for different reasons and that is why the advice for all these people are very general and start from the basis that they should look for the causes that have made them come to suffer this symptomatology.
- Try to limit sexual behaviors by using relaxation techniques, engaging in activities that are incompatible with obsessive sexual behaviors.
- Talk about it with someone you trust.
- Go to a specialized professional who can help you assess your problem.
For more information about sexual anxiety, contact Mr. Fernando Botana.