The figure of the mother is a very important figure in our lives. We are born with them, we grow up with them, and normally we have always maintained a very special bond with them.
The moment a mother is missing, there is an emptiness that sometimes we will only learn to assume as days and time go by. However, at other times it is so difficult to accept the loss of a mother that we are reluctant to accept her absence. In this case, and completely involuntarily, we embrace a memory that becomes obsessive. A memory that comes by itself and that is automatically installed in our mind and to which we will embrace to recover a part of what we already know we have lost. The risk is that this memory traps us and visits us recurrently, making the affected person practically forget his or her own life and devitalize his or her own existence.
Accepting maternal bereavement, an arduous task
In this way, and however hard the loss and its possible effects may be, it is necessary for the affected person to let life take over. One of the keys to this is to accept and try to be aware that the memory is just that, a memory. We have survived, and as such, we are responsible for giving meaning to our lives.
In this way, if we accept the pain that arises from the loss and understand that it is an irreparable loss, it is possible to revalue the loving memories that we have about it.
On the other hand, if assuming and understanding the loss becomes a very difficult task, it may be time to let yourself be accompanied in the mourning by a professional who understands and knows what is happening and who will accompany you in that pain that in solitude is so difficult to accept, assume and mitigate.