Thinking of the other, key on Valentine’s Day

Today is Valentine’s Day, the day of lovers, and many will try to impress their partners with ostentatious gifts or measured details, but sometimes it is not necessary to spend a lot of money or invest too much time. The expert psychologist Marina Bassas, expert in relationships and member of Top Doctors, gives us some simple tips to get it right on this day.

A good opportunity to reinvent yourself

“Valentine’s Day is a good excuse to surprise our partner, look for a different experience and dedicate some romantic time to ourselves,” says the doctor. For Bassas the key is to think of the other when making plans or looking for a gift and insists that it is not necessary to do “something extraordinary”. The idea is to take advantage of the date “to get out of the routine” but without turning it into an obligation: “Valentine’s Day, Sant Jordi or any other celebration are just an opportunity. We don’t have to make it an obligation or it will lose all its charm.

Conversation is key, but it can also be the cause that ends up ruining the evening. Therefore, the topics that are brought up should avoid being routine, such as work or family: “It would be about trying to share those experiences, subtleties and feelings that normally we do not find the time to transmit with a relaxed attitude. A good attitude and predisposition can help to inject a new air to the couple, contribute to renew the illusion”.

And, always according to the psychologist Bassas, we must think of the other but look for a terrain “in which one feels safe”. By following these simple tips we are sure to get it right on this special day for couples.