Self-esteem is a trendy term and a lot of literature has been written lately about how to improve it, and the importance of having a healthy self-esteem.
We can define “self-esteem” as the valuation we make about ourselves.
That is why in therapy we work a lot on improving self-esteem in order to feel satisfied with ourselves. This is developed from the time we are small and adults play a fundamental role in the development of the child’s self-esteem.
What is low self-esteem?
It is when we have a negative perception of our qualities, capacities and aptitudes.
We can identify the following characteristics of low self-esteem:
- Having too many negative thoughts about oneself, such as thinking that we will not achieve something, that we will do it badly or that others will not like it.
- Excessive dependence on people considered “better” than oneself: not trusting oneself, we look for someone “stronger, more decisive”, to whom we endow with exceptional qualities to support us. This feeling of dependence diminishes our perception of self-worth even more, as we think that without the help of the person on whom we depend, we would not have been able to do it.
- Avoidance of situations where the feeling of insecurity can be triggered: these people tend to avoid anything that causes them a strong negative emotion, such as fear. There is a kind of intolerance to feeling bad, even if it is for a valuable purpose.
- Tendency to withdraw socially: this may be because they are too aware of the possibility of rejection and its consequences and, therefore, they cling to people who give them security in this sense.
- They usually suffer from problems such as: difficulty to relax, sleep problems, obsessions, somatization of anxious symptoms and, therefore, they suffer more body pains.
- They tend to give up easily in the face of difficulties, because they see this difficulty and the added feelings as proof that they will not achieve their purpose.
- They tend to minimize their achievements or not see them at all. However, they are adept at seeing the accomplishments and qualities of those around them.
If you think you suffer from low self-esteem and need help, contact a specialist in Psychology.