How do I know if I have low self-esteem

Self-esteem is a trendy term and a lot of literature has been written lately about how to improve it, and the importance of having a healthy self-esteem.

We can define “self-esteem” as the valuation we make about ourselves.

That is why in therapy we work a lot on improving self-esteem in order to feel satisfied with ourselves. This is developed from the time we are small and adults play a fundamental role in the development of the child’s self-esteem.

What is low self-esteem?

It is when we have a negative perception of our qualities, capacities and aptitudes.

We can identify the following characteristics of low self-esteem:

  • Having too many negative thoughts about oneself, such as thinking that we will not achieve something, that we will do it badly or that others will not like it.
  • Excessive dependence on people considered “better” than oneself: not trusting oneself, we look for someone “stronger, more decisive”, to whom we endow with exceptional qualities to support us. This feeling of dependence diminishes our perception of self-worth even more, as we think that without the help of the person on whom we depend, we would not have been able to do it.
  • Avoidance of situations where the feeling of insecurity can be triggered: these people tend to avoid anything that causes them a strong negative emotion, such as fear. There is a kind of intolerance to feeling bad, even if it is for a valuable purpose.
  • Tendency to withdraw socially: this may be because they are too aware of the possibility of rejection and its consequences and, therefore, they cling to people who give them security in this sense.
  • They usually suffer from problems such as: difficulty to relax, sleep problems, obsessions, somatization of anxious symptoms and, therefore, they suffer more body pains.
  • They tend to give up easily in the face of difficulties, because they see this difficulty and the added feelings as proof that they will not achieve their purpose.
  • They tend to minimize their achievements or not see them at all. However, they are adept at seeing the accomplishments and qualities of those around them.
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If you think you suffer from low self-esteem and need help, contact a specialist in Psychology.